“Tell me to what you pay attention and I will tell you who you are.” -Jose Ortega Gassett

Have you ever suddenly stopped yourself after realizing you’d been dwelling on something insignificant for way too long?

Maybe it was something that didn’t go right in your day, or something a bit offensive that someone said. Whatever it was, it was something you knew wasn’t a big deal, and yet you felt a need to mentally replay it over and over in your head.

I’ve done this many times before.I even did it yesterday . Though I know it’s draining and not even slightly productive, it sometimes seem like a  way to “fix” or “solve” something that somehow felt wrong.

I suspect it’s also a means to reassure to myself that I am right and didn’t deserve to be treated some kind of way, because replaying an offense is passing judgment over and over again.Yesterday  I realized that every time I give power to the little things that might seem to bother me —when some one almost drives you off the road, or someone passes a rude comment on something you worked hard on.—I am choosing to be that unproductive energy.

Every time I get caught up in my need to feel liked and perfect, and my annoyance over feeling that I’m not, I am choosing  the fear of being mistreated.

Thinking isn’t just an activity—it a state of being.

Now I’m not suggesting we should swallow our feelings on things, big and small in fear that they may somehow define us.

I’m suggesting that we question the thoughts that create our feelings so that we don’t let them consume us—especially when we’re creating unnecessary drama and stressing over something we may not even remember in a few days’ time.

We spend so much of our time focusing our attention on things that don’t really help us, when the thing that would  help us the most is to focus our attention to our inner self.

If we can observe and understand how our thoughts are impacting us, we can change who we’re being.

It starts simple : if we choose to release the little worries that stand in the way of that.we can feel free,open and Alive!